I was reading an article the other day about an amazing woman whose son was murdered in a knife attack. She has started a charity to help settle ex-offenders when they come out of prison and has publicly stated that when the young men found guilty of her sons murder are released that she will be there to support and help them as the reintegrate into society. That blew me away.
It seems there are several types of people. Those who feel that by forgiving the transgressor against them they can find peace, those who can let go of the bitterness without active forgiveness, and those who will always hold onto a sense of grief and bitterness at what has occurred.
There are several types of forgiveness of course. Could you forgive a parent or child for leaving and never coming back? Could you forgive a loved one if they took the ultimate step of taking themselves off planet? What about someone abusing your child, or killing them? A loved one betraying your trust by being unfaithful? or stealing from you? or lying to you?
I can't help but feel that there is a human limitation on what can be forgiven and what cannot. Granted there are some extraordinary individuals out there who are able to truly forgive those who transgress against them, but I think they may well be a significant minority.
Where do you draw the line on forgiveness? Or should we aspire to never having a line at all?